Rational Detachment and Ego
How to move towards rational detachment from others while honoring ourselves.
Relationships are fucking hard. When to say something, when to not, when you feel justified versus dramatic, when to connect deeper and when to walk away. It feels like the game I never received the instructions for and even as I play it more, I don’t feel confident in my strategy.
Especially as someone with relational trauma, it can be difficult to quiet down the protective mechanisms in me that self sabotage, idealize or walk away too soon. Adding another complicated layer to relational dynamics that include the constant assessing and question asking, “Is this my trauma?”, “Am I overthinking this?”
As a therapist, a woman with relational trauma, a friend, sister and lover to those I care about-I want to talk about a few things I have done to practice rational detachment in my relationships and ensuring I am not operating through ego to understand others around me. I am by no means a guru but sometimes it’s nice to hear ACTUAL things to do instead of being told to “love and trust yourself”.
